I was reading this article on Ndtv about being single and in their 40’s, above that being an Indian women. I’m myself 29 and single. Believe me, after 25 its not considered appropriate for a girl to be single in India. I can imagine how she might be feeling. I’ll not be discussing the article but the comments the article received. The article has been written by a married women about her friend and sister, who are in 40’s and single Indian women.
Well, the comments were mostly by Indian Men, and as expected all negative. At first, I was disgusted by the thinking of men in Indian society about women and her right to life. Then, I realized, that is how Indian society is, why to blame only Men, the older generation in India, basically the “Aunties” who bring you all the possible suitor lists are also in this brigade.
The article has been completely written in English and that too very simple language, the first comment was “kindly translate in english, didn’t get a word”, “loser”, “poorly written article”, “trying to act cool”, “blabbering bored housewife”, “irresponsible, intolerant” and i can just go on. As, I read further, rather than getting annoyed, I was kind of laughing at the comments, they showed mere jealousy, that someone, that too “a girl” in India had the guts to wait for the right guy and age gracefully, which they were not able to do.
I don’t know how many times I have written about women on my blog, but its like, this topic never gets out of my head. First few of my blogs said strongly about it in “Iterated life of an Indian girl”. There were many positive and encouraging comments as well, needless to say, by all the girls and married women in the same age group.
I wonder, when is India going to open their mind as settling is not everything in life.
Girl with a Tripod